Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Sunday, my best friend died. My sweetheart of 20 years died suddenly from diabetes. We didn't know he had diabetes. It came quick and took him from me.
Brad was more than just my husband, he was my best friend. I relied so very much on his strength to guide me and my children through this life. I admit I feel a bit lost without him, already. I had planned on much, much more time with him.
Brad and I met on January 28th, 1989. We were both at a nightclub for under age night with our friends that had dragged us there. We were both ready to leave when we were talked into one more dance. That dance changed our lives. We hit it off right away and danced the rest of the night. In face, we were together from then on. I remember that after that night, I waited all day for his call. It was love right away for me. I felt something I had never felt before and knew that he was the one for me. We dated for six months before Brad went to Texas to go to school. We talked a lot on the phone, and I went to visit him once in the fall. We would have wonderful, long conversations on the phone regularly and decided somewhere along the way that we wanted to get married.
Brad suprised me in December by coming home to visit. It was a Monday. We spent the week together and on Friday night, after a movie, he proposed to me. We were married the next Thursday, on December 28th, 1998.
Brad always made sure he took me on a date every Friday night. Things would sometimes come up and we would switch to another night in the week, but...we didn't miss many dates. It was a priority to him, and to me. We could fight all week, but on Friday....all was well. The song, "Friday, I'm in Love", by The Cure, was definitely our song. He brought me flowers regularly and told me I was beautiful all the time.
Brad was a great dad. He enjoyed playing with his kids, especially when they got old enough to play games with strategy. He taught them how to think things through and to prepare for the future through the games they played.
Brad actually 'caught' 4 of our 6 children. We had them at home, just the two of us. He would read me Shakespeare and play Mozart while I labored. It was a beautiful thing.
I remember best how Brad's eyes would light up when I walked into the room. He always showed me that he loved me. I am a very blessed woman to have had such a wonderful man in my life. I will miss him SO much.
I am so grateful for all the wonderful people that have shared their love with me and my children as we go through this hard time.
It is comforting to me to know that my family has been sealed in the temple and that I will be with my husband again. We will all be together again. I look forward to that day.