Sunday, my best friend died. My sweetheart of 20 years died suddenly from diabetes. We didn't know he had diabetes. It came quick and took him from me.
Brad was more than just my husband, he was my best friend. I relied so very much on his strength to guide me and my children through this life. I admit I feel a bit lost without him, already. I had planned on much, much more time with him.
Brad and I met on January 28th, 1989. We were both at a nightclub for under age night with our friends that had dragged us there. We were both ready to leave when we were talked into one more dance. That dance changed our lives. We hit it off right away and danced the rest of the night. In face, we were together from then on. I remember that after that night, I waited all day for his call. It was love right away for me. I felt something I had never felt before and knew that he was the one for me. We dated for six months before Brad went to Texas to go to school. We talked a lot on the phone, and I went to visit him once in the fall. We would have wonderful, long conversations on the phone regularly and decided somewhere along the way that we wanted to get married.
Brad suprised me in December by coming home to visit. It was a Monday. We spent the week together and on Friday night, after a movie, he proposed to me. We were married the next Thursday, on December 28th, 1998.
Brad always made sure he took me on a date every Friday night. Things would sometimes come up and we would switch to another night in the week, but...we didn't miss many dates. It was a priority to him, and to me. We could fight all week, but on Friday....all was well. The song, "Friday, I'm in Love", by The Cure, was definitely our song. He brought me flowers regularly and told me I was beautiful all the time.
Brad was a great dad. He enjoyed playing with his kids, especially when they got old enough to play games with strategy. He taught them how to think things through and to prepare for the future through the games they played.
Brad actually 'caught' 4 of our 6 children. We had them at home, just the two of us. He would read me Shakespeare and play Mozart while I labored. It was a beautiful thing.
I remember best how Brad's eyes would light up when I walked into the room. He always showed me that he loved me. I am a very blessed woman to have had such a wonderful man in my life. I will miss him SO much.
I am so grateful for all the wonderful people that have shared their love with me and my children as we go through this hard time.
It is comforting to me to know that my family has been sealed in the temple and that I will be with my husband again. We will all be together again. I look forward to that day.
Comments
Cali
cindyb
How sweet of you to post this about your husband. I know you will miss him very much. My thoughts and prayers are with you & your family.
Carolee W.
I am sending hugs your way and will continue to keep you all in my prayers.
You are so amazing. I know that this is a difficult time, but we know that you and he are together forever. I love you, and think of you and the children. If you need anything you know you have a huge support system that loves and cares for you. I am far, but my help is near. Thanks for sharing the beautiful memories of Brad.
Thinking of you!
~~Diana
Hugs!
Lynn
I am so so sorry about the loss of your husband, your best friend, your soul mate. I am sending you the biggest hugs, and I am so glad that you will be together again some day, he will be waiting for you with open arms. Till then, know that you have lots of friends and family here to help you.
I want you to think of Bradley and smile because I believe he knows when you are thinking of him, as will you know when he is thinking of you.
Hugs,
Diana
Sending you much love from Virginia!
I am so saddened for you. My deepest condolences on your loss. My prayers are with you.
Pat
I'm so very sorry to hear of the loss of your wonderful husband. Reading what you've written has brought me to tears. What a wonderful tribute. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Jeannette
I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in the loving memories you have. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Lisa
I am SO sorry for the loss of your sweet soulmate. I can't imagine the pain you and your family are going through. Please know that we are all here for you when you need us. Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers....
What a beautiful love story. You are so strong. Hold on tight to the knowlege that you will be together with Brad again for all eternity.
More (((((HUGS))))) from across the miles.
Love,
Rachelle Smith
I am truly saddened by this news. I am sending all my love and prayers your way. You have an amazing family and we miss you. Please know we are thinking of you and your children. We love you.
Dane and Karen Bagley
{hugs}
Marcia P (Bloggers Challenge)
We miss you!!
Debi
Elizabeth
I am so sorry for your sudden loss. Most people go through life not even finding anyone and you were lucky to have found a man that loved and adored you and your children.
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know there aren't any words that can comfort you now...cherish the memories and know he is watching down on you!!
Praying for you and your family during this difficult time. My heart is broken for your loss.
Allison
I worked with Brad for a brief time here at MSFC. He was a great fellow.
I remember that he made it a point to talk to me shortly after my wife was severely injured. As you stated in your words, and as he showed me as we talked that day, he really knew how much a wife and husband mean to one another. Words do not do justice to that special bond.
My heart goes out to you and your wonderful children.
Please lean on family and friends.
We'll pray for your strength & wisdom, and peace for you and your family to endure through this extreme, life-changing event.
Bless you all.
R.H. Coates
Huntsville, AL
What a touching tribute you have left us all to ponder of your wonderful husband, sweetheart, and eternal companion. What a blessing it is to know that you will be together for time and all eternity.....someday!!
What a blessing it is to read all these comments everyone out in the blogging world has left you. What a great comfort that can be for you at this difficult time in your life. To know that you have all these prayers, love, and support from so many people.
May you always turn to the Lord for his comfort and peace, for you and your children.
Take care....and {{{{{Hugs}}}} from California.
~ A fellow blogger
My family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your children during this difficult time.
Janis LU
My heart cries for you. I have always admired your relationship with your husband. The two of you lead by example and I will be forever blessed knowing the two of you. I pray God will hold you and your family in His hands and comfort you every day. I am here for you and your family. Call when you need anything.
Jill
Alicia
(((hugs))) to you and your family.
My heart aches for you during this difficult time for you and your children. Sounds like you spent 20 wonderful years together, I pray that you find comfort in your memories and peace in knowing that you will be reunited one day. God Bless Beckie - you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers!
I cant even say I know how you feel. I dont even know what I'll do if something happens to my Oscar. All I can say is that you are one of the lucky ones. Lucky?? Because you got to share in the life of such wonderful man. Some people come and go and don't make a difference and other like Brad come only for a short time touching the lives of others in such wonderful ways and our life will never be the same. Every night before I put My son to sleep we pray and he always says to me that since he doesnt know what to say that hes sending the whole alphabet to God to make a nice prayer for his family, so I'll send God the whole alphabet to make a wonderful prayer for you and your children to give you serenity to accept the things we can not change and to help you with your loss. If I can do anything or you need help with anything just say the word. all my love, your friend;
Linnette
(((hugs)))
Bev
I'm so terribly sorry to hear of your loss and pray the strength of your family and the wonderful memories of you & Brad will help you get through this trying time.
connie paxman
Christ's peace & love,
Gina